The following questions ask you about your relationship. If you are not currently in a relationship, these are signs or “red flags” to assist people in identifying a potentially abusive person.
Do you feel nervous around your partner?
Do you have to be careful to control your behavior to avoid your partner’s anger?
Do you feel pressured by your partner when it comes to sex?
Are you scared of disagreeing with your partner?
Does your partner criticize you, or humiliate you in front of other people?
Is your partner always checking up on you or questioning you about what you do without your partner?
Does your partner control where you go or check the mileage on your car?
Does your partner repeatedly and wrongly accuse you of seeing or flirting with other people?
Does your partner tell you that if you changed, he or she wouldn’t treat you like this?
Does your partner’s jealousy stop you from seeing friends or family?
Does your partner make you feel like you are wrong, stupid, crazy, or inadequate?
Has your partner ever scared you with violence or threatening behavior?
Does your partner throw or break objects to intimidate you?
Does your partner make you feel scared by driving too fast and refusing to slow down when you ask?
Does your partner say, “I will kill myself if you break up with me” or “I will hurt/kill you if you break up with me”?
Does your partner make excuses for the abusive behavior? For example: saying, “It’s because of alcohol or drugs,” or “I can’t control my temper,” or “I was just joking”?
Does your partner brag about bullying or harming others or animals?
Has your partner abused or killed your animals?
Does your partner impose stereotypical gender roles?
You do not deserve to be abused. Create a safety plan or call someone to talk about your relationship. You may also want to contact our Hotline at Lebanon: 1.717.272.5308 | Schuylkill: 1.570.628.2965.